In our times of social media it's common that every single part of our life is shared with everyone. Sharing the things we are doing, what we plan on doing. 

I saw a quote floating around by Frank Ocean 'Work hard in silence - let your success be your noise' And this is so true. Sometimes it's best not to speak about what you're going to do and just do it. 

Here is why: 

1. Actions speak Louder than words 
Speaking about what you're going to do is different to actually doing it. I've got a list of things I want to achieve but there's no point talking about this list of desired accomplishments if I never actually take action to do them. 

Sometimes for this reason it's best not to say much about your goals, but actually start take the steps to achieve them. Talking about goals are empty statements until they are executed. 


2. Focus on the results 
You want to actually focus on the results you're aiming to achieve instead of getting distracted. The sad truth is that not everyone will believe in you. Some may doubt you and make you feel like it's impossible until you've proved them wrong. Which is why it's best to focus on gaining the results and keep that tunnel vision towards your goals. 

Whatever it is. Whether it is going down 3 dress sizes, getting a promotion, launching a business, writing a book, learning a new talent. Regardless of what it is it's equally as important to focus on gaining results and not allowing yourself to get distracted.  


3. Success will make the noise for you 
The truth of the matter is your success will speak measures for you. Sometimes you don't even really need to say much. But by showing the results, the fact you achieved your goal and the successful outcome will be enough. 

For a lot of people seeing is believing and sometimes you need to do the behind the scenes work in order to have an outcome that'll speak volumes on your behalf!!! I think of athletes in the Olympics. They train for 4 years, putting in all the work behind the scenes. We don't really see what they're doing but we see the results at the Olympics when they're winning medals and succeeding. 

So this isn't to say you shouldn't share with anyone because you never know who can come along side you to help and support you. 

But at the same time there's no point talking about something and not doing it. 
Work hard in silence. Let your success be your noise. 

xxx
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Well I can definitely quite an ironic post. Being the queen worrier, the queen drama queen, the queen of making things a bigger deal than they are. The fact that I'm even writing a post to advise anyone on worrying is a huge deal. But I've definitely learnt a thing or two and realise that by focussing on our problems doesn't solve anything. 

Which is why I'm deciding not to worry anymore. Why? Because it's getting boring and I'm tired of it. 

Here's some ways to stop worrying. 

1. De-focus 
Change what you focus your attention on. It's hard. I know it's hard. It's hard when you have no money and you're worrying about how you're gonna pay bills. And as natural as it is to worry it doesn't actually make the situation any better, but magnifies the situation making you feel worse. 

So change your focus. Try to focus on the good. Right now I'm unemployed because I lost my job. But (as hard as it is) I'm trying to focus on the fact I have soooo much more free than I had before to focus on the things I'm passionate about, enjoying the summer, reflecting on life and what I want out of it. 
Changing my focus has really helped & I know my situation won't be this way forever! 

2. Forget about false fears 
Fear is really False Evidence Appearing Real. Fear isn't reality. The things you worry about happening most likely isn't going to happen and won't ever happen. But we get so caught up worrying about things that could happen that never will or do end up
happening.

So instead of dwelling on these fears - forget about them and pour them down a drain. Because seriously it isn't worth focussing on your fears. It isn't worth wasting your time on things that won't happen. 

3.  Slow down. 
(And Calm down) 
Stop being so frantic about everything and slow down. I realise that when I'm running around in circles worrying and trying to figure out a way to solve my problems I turn crazy. But deciding to slow down, relax and put life into perspective changes a lot. 

Slowing down and reflecting generally helps the way you feel. I usually try to reflect on the fact that God has created me therefore He will take care of my life. No matter what is going on He will solve my situations. (And it's the same for you). 

God has got every single one of your situations in His hands and is taking care of them. So stop worrying. Worrying takes away the opportunity to enjoy today when you're too busy thinking about tomorrow. 

So I'm deciding to enjoy my today's and not worry about what's going to happen tomorrow. Because it's all under control! 



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This theme has been popping up in my life a lot lately and I'm learning the importance of letting go and throwing out some things out in order to move forward. This isn't necessary a physical spring clean or letting go, but more emotional, mental and spiritual cleansing. Sometimes holding on seems safe, but it could be that exact thing holding us back from the life we should be living. And I'm in the middle of realising this myself - in order to move forward you need to let go! 
Whether it is having to let go of the familiar, the things that hold you back, or letting go and letting God, it's essential to leave those things behind in order to more forward. 

Here's Some Reasons I'm realising the Importance of Letting Go: 

1. To Move Forward
Letting go allows us to move forward, and move ahead in our lives. Life is like a race and similar to an athlete our aim is to reach the finish line. However, you can't reach the finish line by running the race with a backpack full of heavy bricks on your back. I mean you may get to the end, but it will take a very very very long time. Carrying all that weight and baggage will get in the way of getting through the race. So in order to run the race successfully and move forward you'll have to take off the baggage and leave it behind. 

2. To Be the Person You're Meant to Be
Holding onto baggage allows it to weigh a person down. Baggage can also hold you back from becoming the person you're supposed to be. Sometimes we get way too comfortable with what we are carrying that it becomes all too familiar and a part of everyday life.
God wants us to let go of our baggage and the things we are holding onto so that we can live the life He has laid out for us. If we let go we'll live a life of peace, joy and rest in God. 

'Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest'  (Matthew 11:28)

3. To Step out of our Comfort Zone
Sometimes we need to let go, to move forward, and also move to the next level of our life. God never wants us to stay where we are or be at the same level we are at forever. Sometimes we need to let go and step out of our comfortable area in order to move to the next level. For example, an athlete cannot get better and start gaining their personal bests or become a better athlete if they're holding onto that bag full of bricks. They'll only stay at the same pace, struggling to push through, Never truly gaining their best or achieving to their next level. 

We need to let go in order to experience the level that God has set out for us which we are supposed to reach. 

4. To Be Free! 
And ultimately...Letting go sets us free! It's always great to experience freedom, and whether it's a case of letting go of mindsets, thoughts such as guilt, shame and hurt, letting go of control, of what someone has done to you, or letting go of fear. It allows us to be free! Freedom allows us to experience peace and the ability to enjoy our life. Similar to the athlete freedom gives us the ability to run as fast as we can without the baggage, weights or burdens. 

'I have come that they might have life, and live it to the full' (John 10: 10)

Recently I have definitely realised the importance of letting go in order to live life to its full. Letting go is an essential part of our journey. We all have a point in our lives where letting go is crucial to moving forward and getting to the next level in our lives. 

I'm letting go of a few things. Letting go and Letting God. Let's let go together!! 

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Being afraid to fail is something that can really prevent you from getting the most out of life (I know it did exactly that to me for a while). The fear of the unknown and fear that everything you try to do may just crumble and fall apart can really get in the way of living life to your full potential and it's not a fun place to be in.

Here are some reasons why you should let go of the fear of failure:  

Your Fears Aren't As Big As You Think 
When you face your fears they actually turn out to be smaller than you thought they were. What makes them big is when you don't look them directly and face up them. The longer you avoid your fears the bigger they grow in your mind. Fears at times can feel the size of a mountain, but a mountain is not that big if you're able to climb up and over it to the other side. Fine, it might take a while to climb up that mountain but you'll eventually overcome it if you're persistent. 

I used to see this acronym but not really pay much attention to it until more recently. And sometimes your fears not only appear smaller than you thought, but a lot of the time they are all a part of your vivid imagination. It's easy to feel begin pre-determining what could happen before it even does and potentially wont! 

False 
Evidence 
Appearing
Real 


You'll never be who you're supposed to be
If you stay in your shell you'll never be the person you are meant to be, and you will never achieve your full potential! I remember there was a time when I was afraid to start up my fashion business again, I'd launched a business that wasn't doing as well as I wanted it to, but instead of persisting and fixing the things I had done wrong I went into my shell and stopped.But there came a time when I started feeling like I wasn't living to my full potential, I was frustrated working jobs I hated, waking up at stupid hours in the morning and not spending time on my passion or doing what I knew I was supposed to be doing. 

Don't allow the fear of failure or the unknown paralyse you from stepping out, because if you do you're getting in your own way of opportunities and having a better life!

Most people fail because they become paralysed by their fear. BE the person who faces their fears and experiences what life could really be and DON'T be the person who succumbs to their fears and does the same thing you've always done. Nothing great ever came from staying in your comfort zone. 


You have to Fail to win. 
Failure is all a part of the process when you're on the road to success, which is why you shouldn't fear failure. You'll make mistakes and that's okay. They teach you what to do right the next time. With my business I've learnt the things that work and what doesn't. In life you're always learning, so count failure as a way to learn. Also sometimes you don't know what to do right until you've seen what's wrong. 

So many people fail before they even saw any success: 

  • Oprah Winfrey was fired from her job as a news anchor because she "wasn't fit tor television"
  • Marilyn Monroe's first contract with Columbia Pictures expired because they told her she wasn't pretty or talented enough to be an actress
  • JK Rowling's first book was rejected by 12 publishing houses before it was finally accepted 

So remember even if you do fail you can STILL win!!! 

Stop fearing the unknown or the possibility of failing, because God did not give you fear, but He gave you power! He gave you the ability to win, the ability to overcome and the ability to go FAR! Especially if you are going through life with Him besides you there's nothing that you cannot do! 

Fight that Fear! 



- Modern Ladyhood 

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Firstly, this isn't about to be one of those posts to suggest you should be like Meagan Good and Devon Franklin, neither is it one which seeks to make you feel envious of the couple. But rather, things you can learn...I guess. (Or perhaps it's just our bias towards generally loving them! I dunno). Anyway...here are our actual reasons as to why....


1. They Waited
Waited for what you ask? Well I am still yet to buy this book so probably not as wised up as I should probably be - But I have read the blurb, and watched interviews leading up to the launch of their book titled,'The Wait' - speaking about how they waited for each other, waited on God and also waited to get married before having sex! 

Celibacy is definitely isn't widely celebrated in the 21st Century - soon as you do tell someone you are celibate it is usually followed with a sympathetic "Ahh, well good on you" response or a "Are you crazy?" response. But they still managed to be different from a large number of the population and do it the 'right way'. The couple spoke in interviews of how much of a positive impact it made on their relationship, by removing insecurities, the potential of being blinded by the physical or using sex to divert from real issues. 

People have probably forgotten or don't know (or maybe don't even care), but God did make sex for the enjoyment of marriage and not before it and this is something we definitely celebrate here at Modern Ladyhood *clap clap*


2. They wrote a book together
Yeah I know...more about this book! I don't know about you but a couple that can write a book together to me shows a great form of team-work!!! 
As a control freaked, perfectionist writer I literally couldn't even imagine sharing the pen with another person, someone else telling me what I wrote was wrong or I should change it! That might just be me. But even back in school I didn't like the English teacher telling me I was wrong -- I mean leave me to make up my own words in peace! Ha!

But this must have taken a huge amount of surrender on both parts. 


3. They're Hollywood but Human
I love the fact they promote things like celibacy and abstinence and loving GOD! Not very Hollywood really. It's just amazing that they are industry-focussed but still church-focussed. 
While some of hollywood are promoting crazy crazy and morrreee crazy lives these two are here talking about standing out, and not doing what the rest of the world are doing and highlighting the benefits in doing so. (Yup!)


4. They support each other 
Nowww we can't talk about how much we love them without talking about 'the incident' - yeah the incident... you know the one where that random woman shouted out to Meagan "We're going to cover up right" referring to her clothing and how inappropriate it is for the Christian world. Hmmm not the way to do it lady!

However, half of a second passes and Devon runs to her rescue, rising up in defence to protect his Queen from harm, like a Knight in shining armour ready to... (okay not exactly like that) but his response was fast, quick to defend and protect her! And that's the way it should be. The man protecting his wife!


5. They're inspirational
I have read Devon's book 'Produced By Faith' and what I loved about this book is his honesty and humility, speaking of reaching success as a Film producer, being humbled along his journey with many hiccups, but not allowing himself to forget who he is once gaining ultimate success and exposure through the production of the film 'The Pursuit of Happyness'. Generally not forgetting it was God who helped him get there, and remembering his calling to be a difference within the Film industry being both a Pastor and a Film producer. If that's not inspiring - I don't know what is. 


So I guess there are some things we can learn from the couple. Or maybe this was an excuse to do a post just for them? I don't know. Either way it's done now lol

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It is easy nowadays with things like social media to have a 'I want what is on their plate' mentality, forgetting what is on our own plate is just right for us! 

We were all created in our own individual ways so comparing your life to someone else's will only cause you to be depressed (I speak from experience). If you constantly look at other people's lives you'll never see the blessings and gifts that are laying there in your own life...

So here are 5 reasons to stop comparing yourself to other people...


1. Comparing Will Drain You. 

If you keep comparing your life to other people, whether friends or not you will become incredibly tired. Feeling like you constantly have to try to keep up with what others are doing which will eventually drain all of your energy, leaving nothing left for yourself. 

Be who you are naturally, not attempting to be someone you're not. Comparing with take away all your happiness and joy and life is not about comparing yourself to others, wishing you had what they did, but rather being the best YOU you can be. 

2. You will never feel good enough 
If you base your worth and your value on other people's success you will never feel like your life is worth much. It doesn't matter the speed another person is going - what matters is your own life and the progress you are making. And generally success is not necessarily based on speed but rather, the progress you are making along your journey. 

You will also start to highlight your faults and everything you don't have. Which will lead you to live an incredibly unhappy lifestyle. 

3. You will lose focus
I used to run track in school and my mum alwasy said to me before my race "Just keep running don't look behind you or next to you otherwise you'll slow down" and this is beneficial advice for our general life as well. is With our social media conscious society it's hard not to take a look at what other people are doing in their daily lives, but if you are constantly focussed on other people's lives you will lose focus on your own. 

Don't be that person who slows down during their race because they are too busy looking at what is next to them. It's great for other people to inspire you, but do the things you know you are supposed to be doing in life. 

4. You will never win 
Comparing yourself to other people will be a never-ending battle. It won't just be one person, but there will always be people who you feel are doing better than you and you'll end up losing in the eyes of comparison. There will always be someone who is doing something you wish you could accomplish, and if you keep on comparing your life to others it'll be a never-ending depressing fight. Taking you down a never-ending spiral

5. You're simply amazing! 
You were made to be you! Don't let anything stop you from remembering that! Even identical twins may look the same but wouldn't be identical in experiences, inspirations, hobbies, and ideas. So why compare yourself to other people? Everyone on this earth is a unique individual and there is no timeline that we have to live by.

God made you the way He did for a purpose and you are exclusive! No matter how much you feel someone else is like you or doing the things you want to do, don't worry about that because there is always something you can bring to the table in your own unique way. You are the only person in the world who thinks the way you do, or has the specific gifts in the way you do or carries the experience, mistakes, stories and triumphs you do! 


And alright! Your friends or people around you might be getting married, having kids, getting promotions, travelling the world but that doesn't mean if you haven't accomplished those things by a certain time your life is worthless. If you see people doing exciting things use it as an inspiring, rather than looking back at your own life sulking and feeling sorry for yourself. 

Practice celebrating your uniqueness and be proud of the things you have accomplished with a desire to improve yourself for YOU and nobody else - also celebrate with those around you who are doing well. 


You have something important to give life in your own special, unique and individual way. Remember that! 

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I remember a time when I used to say I wanna do this - but I will wait until I'm married to do it with my husband! Who even says that?! 

Well I did. 
In my idealist, perfect world my husband was gonna like all the things I liked and would spend his time doing exactly that with me. (Yeah probably not really gonna happen) And I would wait until then to do them. 

I've come back to earth now though, learnt a few things and still learning. Learning things like: YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED TO ENJOY LIFE!!!

Sometimes as ladies it's easy to feel like our life only starts when we are married or in a relationship and we should wait for that to happen before we can really live life. Life isn't about sitting around and doing nothing while you wait, but about being proactive whilst waiting. If you did nothing but waited all day for 'that day' you would have wasted a lot of valuable time. 

Like seriously. Marriage is definitely a blessing. A true reflection of God's beauty. However I'm not going to wait until I'm married to enjoy life anymore, and here are some reasons why you shouldn't either: 


1. You Could Miss Out
If you sit waiting around for Mr Right you may just end up missing out on the right door, opportunity or experience. 

A relationship is supposed to add to your life - but not necessarily something you put your life on hold for or wait for to bring excitement. Of course it'll be exciting but you've also got to make life interesting for yourself and not wait for someone to come along and do it for you. If you wait for marriage or a relationship before pursuing certain things you may miss out on greatness. 


2. You Really Could Miss Out
Just to emphasise the previous point because it's soooo true.  

By waiting until marriage to enjoy life you potentially run the risk of not really meeting people and not meeting people means you may not meet any guys, hence not meeting your guy to get married to. A slight cycle which will never end. Say for instance you like travelling, you could also meet a guy who likes travelling WHILST travelling. Meaning that mutual interests could bring you together. I heard a story of a blogger who met her now husband via her blog, He was a writer too and stumbled upon it. If she never blogged she probably would have never met him. 

This isn't to say you'll meet a guy through common interests - but it's definitely possible. So don't wait to pursue something when you're married. Do it NOWWW!! 


3. Life Will Be Boring
If you're just sitting and waiting for things to happen to you in your life, then life will be boring. 
That's all. You don't want to live a boring, mundane life hoping that things are gonna somehow come to you because you're waiting. 

Make life exciting for yourself. Don't wait for someone to create excitement for you. You don't want to go through life waiting for marriage and missing out on so many opportunities because you're too busy thinking about when Mr. Right is going to come your way. This single time could be used productively....to travel, get hobbies, learn a skill, build a career or a business. Do some things NOW at least then once you're married with kids you won't sit there singing your shoulda, coulda, wouldas. 


#ModernLadyhood 
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At this point in life I'm realising that in order to go far I need to take more risks and to get to a level of greatness I need to step out my comfort zone. 

Sticking to your comfort zone gets really boring. If you never take any risks or step out of the ordinary then life will be pretty repetitive. And sometimes the bigger the risk the bigger the reward. Risk taking is all about experiencing all that life has to offer. 

Which is why I've made a list of things I will be doing to be a successful risk taker: 

1. Measure out The Gains verses The Loss 
When taking risks it's important to weigh up the things you could lose verses that which you'll gain. If what you will gain is worth a lot more than what you could potentially lose, then go for it!  If something like losing your comfort is one of your reasons then push that aside and take the risk. Do your research and preparation, weighing up whether it will be worth the risk. 

2. View it as your only shot 
Treat stepping out of your comfort zone and taking a risk like it's your only shot. If you treat it like it's your only chance you'll be so determined that it is achievable. Whatever it is you want to do there may be some difficulties but it's your decision whether to allow the difficulties to outweigh the amazing experiences you could have. 

3. Have faith in yourself 
Even if other people don't believe in your abilities or the risk you're thinking of taking the most important thing is that you believe and have enough faith to know it'll work out and will be worth it. If you want to go for a promotion or take extra study but you're told you aren't qualified or educated enough, remember why you're doing it and you're capable of anything you put your mind to. 
Okay there may be some hiccups or forks in the road but that is normal and all part of the journey. Which brings us into our next point. 

4. Failure is all part a of the process 
Don't see failure as the final destination. But see fit as a stepping stone for success. An Oprah quote states "Think like a Queen. Queens are not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness" And this is sooo true. Failure is not anything you can avoid, but you can change your perspective and see failure as a way to learn from what you've done in the past and do it differently. Use the negative and turn it into a positive 

5. Be true to yourself 
And lastly be true to who you are. There's no point in taking a risk that you don't really want to do or its based on an emotional decision, or not really thought through. Choose risks that have the will make you happy and will improve your life. 


If there's something you've wanted to do for the longest time and can't stop thinking about it but have been afraid to do it. There is no better time than now. Take risks for the things you love and for what would ultimately bring a reward to your life. 

#ModernLadyhood 

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Note: The fact that you can be 40 and look like that (image above) makes it very clear that 40 is definitely the new 30, and 30 being 20.

Life goes by sooo fast it's crazy. The fact that you could be celebrating your 16th bday one day then the next you're pushing 30! It's all crazy and a lot to deal with at times, enough to make a person want to hide in a corner begging it to stop. But thing is it's not gonna stop. We are going to keep aging whether we like it or not. 

Sometimes as humans we get so consumed with our age particularly in the areas of getting married, building a career, having a successful business, buying a house and having kids. It's all pressure to get all of that done by a specific age, to the point where we stop enjoying life.

So here are 3 reasons not to get too caught up on your age and just live and enjoy life:


1. You're as young as you feel

Yep. We all age but it's down to the individual whether they will allow age to be a limitation or not. This isn't an excuse to say you should act like a kid or in order to forget your age. But simply it's your choice whether you're gonna allow yourself to be focussed on your age or just live your life. 

Some people associate age with not being able to do certain things because they have missed their moment. But if you want to go after or pursue something, then do it! You're never too old. If you want to go back to school. Do it!! Nobody is saying you can only be in your early 20s to study. You're never too old to go after a dream. 


2. Opportunities aren't limited to age

There ARE some industries such as the Modelling industry who place an age limit on an opportunity, but that isn't everyone's dream anyway. So you are fine!  

It's easy to believe you can only achieve certain goals or by a certain age, and if you have not accomplished it by then that you've missed it. It  inspires me whenever I hear Mark Zuckerberg became a millionaire at 22, and a billionaire at 23 because it highlights the fact that you're never too young to reach success, However it inspires me even more that Oprah made a million at 32, and a billion at 49. There's no age limit to success. Not that 49 is old . But a lot of people would have given up on a dream by then if it didn't work out after they'd passed a certain age. 

Opportunities doesn't care how old you are 


3. Nobody cares as much as you do 

Okay people might say stuff about your age, but at the same time it's up to you whether you'll let it affect you or not. Just get on with life and forget about your age. So what if you're 25 and haven't got to where you wish you had or you're 30 and not married yet. 
It's honestly great to have goals and work towards achieving them by a specific age as a guideline but if it doesn't work out exactly how you imagined don't beat yourself up about it. 

Life isn't a competition so what the girl next door has done at 21 or 25 or 30 has nothing to do with you. You just do you and work according to your own timescale. Imagine if we all had the same life timescale. Like would be pretty boring and conventional. I say we all live our life not focussing on our age. Obviously have goals and dreams but enjoy the journey on the way there and don't compare your timeline to someone else's. Life is too short to be in a competition with people. Work according to your own lifeline. 


- Modern Ladyhood

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I've decided to change my way of thinking and start dreaming bigger than I usually would in the past. You may feel like your dreams aren't achievable or people might think they're completely ridiculous, but trust in your vision. If you're dreaming big keep dreaming big! But if you're not and you know you should be here are reasons why you need to start today!!!! 


You Only Get One Life (YOGOL)
Do you remember the YOLO concept? Yeah it's similar to that only it's not giving you an excuse to do crazy stuff and live wildly. We don't get much time on earth... 80 or 90 years if that. Why shouldn't you dream big? If you have a dream -- PURSUE IT! Don't let anyone tell you it's too big a dream. 

We live in a society where people think dreams are too big. A kid at school could tell their teacher they want to be famous or become a footballer or a singer or a millionaire which is often laughed off and ridiculed. Don't allow someone else's doubt to erase your faith! 

It's your dream. You pursue it!!! You only get one life. If you have a dream -- GO AFTER IT!! 


Mediocrity is boring  
Mediocrity is the worst enemy of greatness so if you have a dream or you know you have a calling why would you throw it away to live a mediocre life? God hasn't created you to be ordinary, He wants you to be extraordinary because that's exactly what He is. There are no rules in life which state you have to live a normal, ordinary, regular, simple life if you don't want to.Some people don't mind, but others want something different, something more!

You don't have to stay in your hometown just because you were born there. 
You don't have to stay in the job field you majored in. 
You don't have to follow the timeline the world has set for you. 
You don't have to live a life where you just come to earth to get an education, start and family, buy a house, retire, then leave. 

If you want to stand out and do something different, or make a change in this world or be a voice. You CAN! Nobody is telling you to live an ordinary life. And even if people are, remember it's YOUR life not theirs. 


There are no limits 
You can dream because there aren't any limits. There isn't a cap on how much money you can earn or the places you want to go to or the number of businesses you want to start or the amount of books you want to write, or the amount of lives you want to impact. 

There are no limits!!! Anything is possible as long as you believe. There is nothing impossible for God and there's is nothing impossible for you especially if He is with you!! Don't allow people to make you feel incapable, or not good enough or not experienced enough to pursue your dream. 


If you want a change then make a change because otherwise nothing will EVER change! 
You don't want to look back on your life in 10, 20 or 30 years from now WISHING! Wishing you had taken the step of faith, wishing you had dreamed bigger, wishing you hadn't allowed people's opinions to stop you from making a difference, wishing you had just left your comfort zone to step into a zone of greatness. 

It's never too late to pursue a dream if you have one! In fact the time is now!! As you are reading this! If you have a dream that you're not pursuing. Go do it now!!! It may be hard. It may be challenging. You may have responsibilities, a family to take care of or a home to run. But I GUARANTEE it will be worth it. If you don't ever try you will never know. Don't live another day full of 'shoulda, coulda, wouldas' 

And don't be that person who spends the rest of their life wishing they had followed their heart, eyeing up someone's blessing saying "That could have been me -- I had that idea years ago". GO FOR IT NOW!!! The world is waiting for you!!! 


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It is the 3rd month into the year already! You've probbaly got goals, whether you've written them down or have them stored in your head here are 10 things to remember whilst chasing after your dreams. The pursuit towards your dreams and goals is not always easy, however it'll be worth it once you get there. 

So here are some things I have learnt and are applicable when you've got a vision you're working towards...


1. Don't Give Up When It Gets Hard 
It'll be hard, nobody said achieving success was easy, if it was then everyone would do it. When progress is slow, and the process is not turning out the way you imagined the thought of giving up on your dreams or goals feels way too easy. Like the easy way out. 
But I found the best thing to do when you feel like giving up is to visualise the life you would like to live and then continue working towards your plan to make it your reality. 

Also asking yourself these questions:


- Why did I want to pursue this goal to begin with— and has anything changed?
- Would my life be better if I gave up on this goal?


If your life would be better once you've achieved this goal then keep pursuing it. It's only a matter of time until you finally see the fruits of your labour, and all you've invested will start to grow. 

“Persistence trumps talent.” – Daniel Pink. And this is so true! Be persistent even though it may be difficult. 


2. The Power of Consistency
This is one that I've learnt more recently. The necessity of consistency. If you want to be successful you have to consistent. Consistency is a major key because unless you have tried something over and over you will not be able to measure its effective and gain an understanding of what works and what doesn't work.

Whether it is consistency at work or a new business venture if you aren't consistent you won't be recognised. People will identify you by your repeated hard work and dedication and people will view you as reliable. 

Being consistent will also keep you momentum going. If you want something bad enough work hard for it, never decreasing the amount of work invested into it. 


3. Compete only with yourself
My dreams are different to yours, your goals are different to mine. 
We all have individual journeys, different places we are going so don't compete with that other person who wants something similar to you. the same way in which we are different is the same way we will utilize it differently. 

Don't look at what other people are doing and where they are in life, and whether they have achieved more than you! Instead by inspired by these people, but not envious. Use it as an example of the possible accomplishments if you work hard.  

But how they achieved their goal might turn out to be different to the way you achieve and how long it takes to reach yours. 

Stay focussed - with some of that tunnel vision and if you're going to compete with anyone - compete with your own personal best.


4. Have The End Goal In Sight 
Similar to visualising your potential life as stated in point no. 1. But write your vision down and write it plain and clearly, because without a vision it will equal failure. 

Having the end goal in sight will help when times are hard, when the struggle becomes real. Again remember why you're doing it or why you are striving for this dream. 10, 15, 20 years from now you could be pleased that you kept the vision closeby.

If an athlete gave up halfway through their race they would never know what would become of their race and what the end results would be. 

So keep running girl and have that finish line in sight. 


5. Value your time
When you're working towards a dream there is no time to spend of worthless things. Drama?..."Ain't nobody got time"

However It's easy to spend our time doing things that we think we need to do but are really a waste of time, sorry yeah like hours of instagram scrolling or binge watching reality TV shows. I once read that Beyonce has the same amount if time as everyone on the earth. Fine, she may have assistants and people helping her left right and centre but it's just an example of what can be achieved if we value our time (ouch! yeah this hurt me). 

I also read that time never comes back. Once it's gone it's gone! We may lose money, but money can be regained. But time can't.  

We live in a period where we face so many distractions, our phones, our iPads, our laptops. There's just sooo much to do and a whole world to get lost in. But if you've got goals limit the time you spend on random web browsing (and people spying). 


6. People will have opinion after opinion
Don't get distracted by naysayers; trust your vision.

You will always get those with a lot to say, with an opinion, with disbelief, with their skepticism. but IGNORE THEM!! Don't listen to them, block it out, don't let it throw you off-course. 

If you know what you're going after, go after it in faith and say "Bye" to the skeptics. They will be the same people to turn around and tell you they knew you could do it. For some people seeing is believing but you don't need those types of people around you. 


7. Never Stop Learning

You can never know enough of one topic - there is always something you can learn even if it's just miniature. So keep educating yourself. 

If you don't acknowledge the need to constantly learn new things you're ultimately denying yourself of the chance to grow. There is always something you don't know and it could help you achieve greater success in accomplishing your goals. 
Listen to what others have to say about their experiences. Learn from their achievements and their mistakes. Read books, read blogs and articles, listen to podcasts, tune into webinars, watch youtube videos. 
There is a world full of knowledge out there. And applying this knowledge in the correct way will make you incredibly wise.

8. Believe and Have faith 
There is no point in having a goal you don't believe in and you don't believe will ever happen. 
It'll be hard to achieve or even work towards a goal you don't believe in or are not passionate about. If you don't believe in your dream or your goal nobody will do it for you. 
You may have moments of feeling discouraged but that's different to totally not believing in your dream at all.

As a child whenever my mum asked me a question and i responded "I'm not sure or I don't know" My mum would say to me "If you're not sure then who is going to be sure for you". 
The answer is NOBODY. It's great to have people around you to encourage you and push you but ultimately it's your goal! It was given to you for a reason. So go get it! 

Believing is 90 percent of the win. If you believe you'll achieve your goal, no matter what the challenges, no matter what anyone else tells you...You WILL succeed!!


9. Be Active
Great you have faith! You believe in your vision but don't expect anyone to do the work for you. Nobody can be successful or reach your goals for you. You have to work hard yourself. 
Faith without work is dead. There is no point believing and dreaming but not working. If only life was that easy. If you want to work towards achieving something it's not going to happen just thinking about it, you have to physically act out the tasks necessary to achieving that goal. 

In order for a plant to grow someone had to plant it in the first place.

Sometimes it's easy to sit around wishing...wishing about your dream life, wishing for the things you want. But some wishes don't come true until you act!  



OH. So I know I said 10 keys but I could only think of 9. There are no rules over here anyway. 

Perhaps that can be the final point. 

There are no rules! There is no right or wrong way of chasing your dreams and achieving a vision. Just do it in your own way and in the way you know how, whilst remembering the points listed above. 

Exciting stuff!!! Here's to chasing dreams and catching them. Whoop!

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