I remember a time when I used to say I wanna do this - but I will wait until I'm married to do it with my husband! Who even says that?!
Well I did.
In my idealist, perfect world my husband was gonna like all the things I liked and would spend his time doing exactly that with me. (Yeah probably not really gonna happen) And I would wait until then to do them.
I've come back to earth now though, learnt a few things and still learning. Learning things like: YOU DON'T HAVE TO WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE MARRIED TO ENJOY LIFE!!!
Sometimes as ladies it's easy to feel like our life only starts when we are married or in a relationship and we should wait for that to happen before we can really live life. Life isn't about sitting around and doing nothing while you wait, but about being proactive whilst waiting. If you did nothing but waited all day for 'that day' you would have wasted a lot of valuable time.
Like seriously. Marriage is definitely a blessing. A true reflection of God's beauty. However I'm not going to wait until I'm married to enjoy life anymore, and here are some reasons why you shouldn't either:
1. You Could Miss Out
If you sit waiting around for Mr Right you may just end up missing out on the right door, opportunity or experience.
A relationship is supposed to add to your life - but not necessarily something you put your life on hold for or wait for to bring excitement. Of course it'll be exciting but you've also got to make life interesting for yourself and not wait for someone to come along and do it for you. If you wait for marriage or a relationship before pursuing certain things you may miss out on greatness.
2. You Really Could Miss Out
Just to emphasise the previous point because it's soooo true.
By waiting until marriage to enjoy life you potentially run the risk of not really meeting people and not meeting people means you may not meet any guys, hence not meeting your guy to get married to. A slight cycle which will never end. Say for instance you like travelling, you could also meet a guy who likes travelling WHILST travelling. Meaning that mutual interests could bring you together. I heard a story of a blogger who met her now husband via her blog, He was a writer too and stumbled upon it. If she never blogged she probably would have never met him.
This isn't to say you'll meet a guy through common interests - but it's definitely possible. So don't wait to pursue something when you're married. Do it NOWWW!!
3. Life Will Be Boring
If you're just sitting and waiting for things to happen to you in your life, then life will be boring.
That's all. You don't want to live a boring, mundane life hoping that things are gonna somehow come to you because you're waiting.
Make life exciting for yourself. Don't wait for someone to create excitement for you. You don't want to go through life waiting for marriage and missing out on so many opportunities because you're too busy thinking about when Mr. Right is going to come your way. This single time could be used productively....to travel, get hobbies, learn a skill, build a career or a business. Do some things NOW at least then once you're married with kids you won't sit there singing your shoulda, coulda, wouldas.
#ModernLadyhood
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