Why You Should Let Go Of Fear Of Failure

Being afraid to fail is something that can really prevent you from getting the most out of life (I know it did exactly that to me for a while). The fear of the unknown and fear that everything you try to do may just crumble and fall apart can really get in the way of living life to your full potential and it's not a fun place to be in.

Here are some reasons why you should let go of the fear of failure:  

Your Fears Aren't As Big As You Think 
When you face your fears they actually turn out to be smaller than you thought they were. What makes them big is when you don't look them directly and face up them. The longer you avoid your fears the bigger they grow in your mind. Fears at times can feel the size of a mountain, but a mountain is not that big if you're able to climb up and over it to the other side. Fine, it might take a while to climb up that mountain but you'll eventually overcome it if you're persistent. 

I used to see this acronym but not really pay much attention to it until more recently. And sometimes your fears not only appear smaller than you thought, but a lot of the time they are all a part of your vivid imagination. It's easy to feel begin pre-determining what could happen before it even does and potentially wont! 

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You'll never be who you're supposed to be
If you stay in your shell you'll never be the person you are meant to be, and you will never achieve your full potential! I remember there was a time when I was afraid to start up my fashion business again, I'd launched a business that wasn't doing as well as I wanted it to, but instead of persisting and fixing the things I had done wrong I went into my shell and stopped.But there came a time when I started feeling like I wasn't living to my full potential, I was frustrated working jobs I hated, waking up at stupid hours in the morning and not spending time on my passion or doing what I knew I was supposed to be doing. 

Don't allow the fear of failure or the unknown paralyse you from stepping out, because if you do you're getting in your own way of opportunities and having a better life!

Most people fail because they become paralysed by their fear. BE the person who faces their fears and experiences what life could really be and DON'T be the person who succumbs to their fears and does the same thing you've always done. Nothing great ever came from staying in your comfort zone. 


You have to Fail to win. 
Failure is all a part of the process when you're on the road to success, which is why you shouldn't fear failure. You'll make mistakes and that's okay. They teach you what to do right the next time. With my business I've learnt the things that work and what doesn't. In life you're always learning, so count failure as a way to learn. Also sometimes you don't know what to do right until you've seen what's wrong. 

So many people fail before they even saw any success: 

• Oprah Winfrey was fired from her job as a news anchor because she "wasn't fit tor television"
• Marilyn Monroe's first contract with Columbia Pictures expired because they told her she wasn't pretty or talented enough to be an actress
• JK Rowling's first book was rejected by 12 publishing houses before it was finally accepted 

So remember even if you do fail you can STILL win!!! 

Stop fearing the unknown or the possibility of failing, because God did not give you fear, but He gave you power! He gave you the ability to win, the ability to overcome and the ability to go FAR! Especially if you are going through life with Him besides you there's nothing that you cannot do! 

Fight that Fear! 

- Modern Ladyhood 

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Why We Secretly Stalk Meagan Good & Devon Franklin!!

Firstly, this isn't about to be one of those posts to suggest you should be like Meagan Good and Devon Franklin, neither is it one which seeks to make you feel envious of the couple. But rather, things you can learn...I guess. (Or perhaps it's just our bias towards generally loving them! I dunno). Anyway...here are our actual reasons as to why....

1. They Waited
Waited for what you ask? Well I am still yet to buy this book so probably not as wised up as I should probably be - But I have read the blurb, and watched interviews leading up to the launch of their book titled,'The Wait' - speaking about how they waited for each other, waited on God and also waited to get married before having sex! 

Celibacy is definitely isn't widely celebrated in the 21st Century - soon as you do tell someone you are celibate it is usually followed with a sympathetic "Ahh, well good on you" response or a "Are you crazy?" response. But they still managed to be different from a large number of the population and do it the 'right way'. The couple spoke in interviews of how much of a positive impact it made on their relationship, by removing insecurities, the potential of being blinded by the physical or using sex to divert from real issues. 

People have probably forgotten or don't know (or maybe don't even care), but God did make sex for the enjoyment of marriage and not before it and this is something we definitely celebrate here at Modern Ladyhood *clap clap*


2. They wrote a book together
Yeah I know...more about this book! I don't know about you but a couple that can write a book together to me shows a great form of team-work!!! 
As a control freaked, perfectionist writer I literally couldn't even imagine sharing the pen with another person, someone else telling me what I wrote was wrong or I should change it! That might just be me. But even back in school I didn't like the English teacher telling me I was wrong -- I mean leave me to make up my own words in peace! Ha!

But this must have taken a huge amount of surrender on both parts. 


3. They're Hollywood but Human
I love the fact they promote things like celibacy and abstinence and loving GOD! Not very Hollywood really. It's just amazing that they are industry-focussed but still church-focussed. 
While some of hollywood are promoting crazy crazy and morrreee crazy lives these two are here talking about standing out, and not doing what the rest of the world are doing and highlighting the benefits in doing so. (Yup!)


4. They support each other 
Nowww we can't talk about how much we love them without talking about 'the incident' - yeah the incident... you know the one where that random woman shouted out to Meagan "We're going to cover up right" referring to her clothing and how inappropriate it is for the Christian world. Hmmm not the way to do it lady!

However, half of a second passes and Devon runs to her rescue, rising up in defence to protect his Queen from harm, like a Knight in shining armour ready to... (okay not exactly like that) but his response was fast, quick to defend and protect her! And that's the way it should be. The man protecting his wife!


5. They're inspirational
I have read Devon's book 'Produced By Faith' and what I loved about this book is his honesty and humility, speaking of reaching success as a Film producer, being humbled along his journey with many hiccups, but not allowing himself to forget who he is once gaining ultimate success and exposure through the production of the film 'The Pursuit of Happyness'. Generally not forgetting it was God who helped him get there, and remembering his calling to be a difference within the Film industry being both a Pastor and a Film producer. If that's not inspiring - I don't know what is. 


So I guess there are some things we can learn from the couple. Or maybe this was an excuse to do a post just for them? I don't know. Either way it's done now lol

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